There are people who complicate and entangle everything, go back and forth, change their minds constantly, forget what they say, do not allow things to flow, make processes slow and difficult, lower morale and team performance, and use sarcasm to defend their own frustration, because no one has yet told them that their problem has a name: CONTRARIANT, and that evil can be cured.
There are other people who allow and even accelerate the flow in the processes, understand the capabilities of the members in their team and combine them in a synergic way, one who does not pretend to know everything and rather empowers, enables, favors and accepts the differences as an advantage. These also have a name and are called FACILITATORS.
And then, as is normal, the absolute majority of us are a bit of both. However, nothing would be better than to get closer to the facilitator end of the spectrum. Where are you? What are you? Facilitator or contrarian, or a dangerous mutation of the two? It is easy to find out where you are, because if what you are in tends to chaos, difficulty and complexity, if those around you seem to be wrong, if others are always to blame, you are probably one more of that dangerous plague of contrarians, from which our latitudes are not exempt.
Often, the extreme contrarian is obsessive, sickly detail-oriented and extremely meticulous, conditions that do not always constitute qualities, because the contrarian is usually like that also in his areas of weakness or ignorance. He does not delegate and feels that only he or she can do things well. He is the one to whom nothing seems right spontaneously, he is the one who thinks he has to do it with his hands, or he is the one who always corrects what others do. The contrarian is often sarcastic and mocking, his worst and most destructive condition, which must be rejected forcefully, because it is simply not acceptable. The pure contrarian plays a lot with double entendre and is usually superficial in his conversation, does not acknowledge with generosity and ignores or omits the value of the people around him.
On this particular issue, the balance between these two extremes is not a positive balance. On the contrary, we should strive to go to the FACILITATORS extreme every day, every month of the year. And whatever we have of opposites, merits review and clearly, modification.
The good news for the contrarians, or for the contrarian in each one of us, is that this can be corrected, it can be overcome, there is a cure and it can be converted into facilitation. This is the only way to aspire to achieve teams performing at their maximum collective potential. For this reason, I try not to be a contrarian, but a FACILITATOR.
In any case, if you recognize yourself as a pure contrarian, if in the previous paragraphs you saw yourself painted in good measure, pay to see. Professional therapy is possibly the best recommendation that can be given.
If you are in the contrarian extreme, you need professional help.
